Sara Say What about Hobbies & Marriage?!
This week, I'm struggling with balancing hobbies in my marriage. When does a hobby become too obsessive? When is it healthy? And how do you balance it and build a strong family dynamic in the house?
Reflections
-Do you or your husband have a hobby?
-Do you find yourself struggling at balancing it with your marriage?
-What little things do you do, on a daily basis, to show your spouse you love 'em?
November 9, 2009 11:34 AM
I LOVE your Sara Say WHAT?! videos. They make me think. I am getting married in 2 months and I want to have a great marriage. So I am taking your advice to heart. I have to work on being more submissive. I am a very independent and stubborn person. I was single for 3 years before I met my fiance, so it has been a struggle for me to go from being "I have to take care of myself" to "He's going to take care of me, I need to let him." I have been praying about it for a while now. Its very hard though. We both have hot tempers so we tend to argue a little too much for our taste. We hate it. So I am trying to watch my tongue more. I also have to stop blaming him. I know it's a lot on me too.
Anyways. Thanks for your advice!! Keep it up!
November 11, 2009 8:25 AM
Sarah Ruth,
You're so sweet! I think being submissive, as a wife, is a learned trait. I mean, I learn more and more every day and I feel like I've grown only because of the years we've been together.
Thanks for watching! Are there any subjects you'd like me to focus on in the coming weeks?
November 11, 2009 8:50 AM
Grl, u r so brave :) I think learning to have a healthy balance in your marriage of time together, and me time for hobbies or whatever, is an ongoing struggle in any marriage. My hubby and I have been married almost 8 yrs now, but this issue continues to be one of our biggest arguments. The one thing that has helped us the most is to make time for one another throughout the day. A text or email to remind him how much he means to me or how much I miss him, or just words of encouragement. It's the little things that make the biggest difference. Of course, I have had to learn the hard way to let him have his alone time no matter how much I feel I need him with me. THanx for reminding me that my hubby does need his space and a break every now and then...
November 12, 2009 12:09 AM
My husband has always worked A LOT--crazy hours during residency, etc. and to be honest--he gave up the majority of his hobbies. He loves sports--so he will still keep up with stats on the computer or on ESPN radio to and from work--but he made the choice not to do fantasy sports for a while b/c truly we would not see him for days due to his work schedule. Him giving that up spoke volumes to me!
But now that things have settled down and he works less--he does watch games now and then. I just love that he is not addicted.
I think hobbies are important but I have also seen them destroy marriages way too often. I mean...there is a deeper issue--but addictions are often the symptom.
I love your advice about how to approach your husband. I totally agree HOW you speak to him is so very important. This is an area it took me a long time to grow in..and I wish I had known this bit of truth from the beginning.
I am so thankful to be in a healthy marriage--I think you investing your time to encourage others in their marriage is wonderful!
December 10, 2009 8:58 PM
WOW! I totally missed this segment of your blog. I was back over st Toni's again going over her old posts, and heard this plug of Sarah say what? GREAT IDEA!
And talking of Marriage and communication even better...I could always use some tips in that department.
First off, my hubby has the addiction in online games. :) And I am still trying to find my place in social networking. Sometimes I spend WAY TOO much commenting on other blog's, and other times like today, I was productive in my home. IT is those days where my husband and I don't argue as much.
Hobbies are important for the both of us..I agree. And the way you approach your hubby is also very important...I like the fact you bought your hubby an energy drink and Snickers cause he likes that. My honey likes chocolate--and recently I ate the last of his KIT KAT bar that he shared with me yesterday--so I bought him another one...I think if we schedule our marriage and dates along with our hobbies, our marriage will be ALOT happier...Cause I didn't get married to get divorced.
WAY to GO Sara! I love this segment! I didn't get bored at all!!! Love it.
Thanks again!